It’s About Being “Different” …
For example, if you’re particularly good at something like dance, drama, music or singing, you tend to get more attention from the teachers for this reason (as in my case, drama). This can attract unwanted attention from the bullies or ‘The Popularities’ as I call them in my book, because this group of children tend to follow the leader and group together in all that they do, they can’t make decisions on their own and they feel more comfortable being mean as a group, to other kids instead of on their own.
2) Being “Too Nice”
You can also be ‘different’ because you’re nice and polite, this is also seen by the more ‘cocky kids’ as a weakness unfortunately, but nice and polite is a tool for life, they will never be happy if they don’t find that inside of themselves I think.
Disabled children, this is a big one and I dont know where to begin on this one! I’ve actually just been away on a weekend with disabled children, who were bullied for one reason or another. Yet, they were the most happiest children I’ve ever met, (lesson seriously learnt). They had lots of problems which didn’t even occur to them, how amazing is that! (Whereas I worry about a silly ‘spot’). Some were Autistic, some had Downs Syndrome, others had growth problems, others had mental health problems, yet they had a strength that I would have liked to have asked, “Where can you buy that from? Merlin the wizard?” (I love the Merlin series by the way)
I hope that we can conquer children’s ignorance about other children not being the same as us, because they are the very, very, same inside it just takes a little more time for them to communicate.
On how Bullies Are Created …
Yes, there are children who don’t have parents who love them. So they observe their parents and copy all their behaviour because thats all they know. Maybe they see some nasty, unpleasant things going on between their Mums and Dads, so they think that its okay to be mean to other kids as they dont know love, security and self esteem as we do. I feel very sorry for them because they know no better.
Some Dads can be real bullies if their kids can’t play football well. When I was at primary school Mum and Dad always said to me ‘learn the game,’ because in High School, you’ll know how to play and if nothing else, you won’t get picked on … It’s worked out so true! I’m now a Yr 7 and can play a game, not great, but can play; however when I’ve been playing games, some Dads arent very nice and shout a lot of abuse at their boys afterwards. I question that, because that is your Dad!! Isn’t he supposed to deliver you a sense of self esteem? Mine does all the time, in everything I do . Then what do you get, the kid who is going to be exactly the same with his future children as his Dad was?
HOW CAN MY BOOK HELP?
My book is me literally me, ‘Ethan’, the lead character in my book. All the questions and answers that I came up with happened to me for a whole long two years! I call my book
‘The Book That Was Never Meant To Be’ though it is now called
Why? Because I kept a diary of my days at primary school yr 4 – yr 5, I also had an imaginary friend called ‘Billy’ who is my friend in my book (based on my cousin.) I was really sad and lonely for a long time, so I would write daily notes on my iPad of what went on in school; I would also find solutions in my imaginary world. Then one day Mum found my notes and became my ‘superhero’: she sorted it all out so quickly that even my bullies and their Mums didn’t know what had hit them 🙂 Cut to the end, she decided to help me turn it into a book… We did!
I think sometimes adults want to make all this business of bullying a little bit long-winded and maybe too careful and ‘politically correct’ if I may say so! My bully was ‘special needs’ so I felt his needs were more listened to than mine in the adult world. I feel that I’ve been through all that ‘bullies’ can throw at you … I also feel that I’m stronger because of all that went on! Therefore what better than a kid who can read my book, written by a kid like me, so they totally feel on a level. I feel that my book is totally honest, says it how it is and is simple for kids to read. We are kids relating to each other and that’s a very important reason why my book can help other children.
It’s simple are you bullied? Well: RTB, RTB, RTB as is in my book … ‘REPORT THE BULLIES’!!!